Parent Teacher Contracts

On Tuesday, August 21, a parent posted a contract on the Stop Homework Facebook page that he was given by his child’s teacher. It was posted as a voluntary contract, although it is hard to imagine that many parents are sitting back pondering whether or not to agree to its terms.  The parent who posted this contract viewed it as arrogant, and I totally agree.  Among the terms, the contract asked the parent to provide a good space for the child to do the homework, to limit television and video game time, to check homework regularly, and so forth. The parent, understandably indicated he would not sign the contract.

Although I support the parent totally for making this decision, I have another thought. What about signing the contract and stapling a “voluntary contract” for the teacher to sign and return to the parent. And since situations like this are probably going on throughout the country, why don’t we create a sample, voluntary contract for parents to return to the teachers with the contracts they sign.

I’m going to take the liberty of composing my own such contract. Feel free to cut and paste it into your own contract. I also invite anyone to leave a comment with important terms they think I might have been left out. Perhaps, we can collectively create a standard contract for teachers to sign. Instead of calling it arrogance, let’s  give teachers the benefit of the doubt, and view this contract as the first step in a dialogue between parents and teachers.

Here are the terms I would most like to see in the contract:

 

I, teacher for ______________________ have read and agree to abide by the following:

1.       I will only assign homework that is important and meaningful for the educational process.

2.      I recognize that the parents are the rightful heads of the home and that my homework assignments are made with their tacit permission, permission they can withdraw.

3.      If educational problems arise, I will meet with the parents to address those problems with the understanding that I am the head of the parent-teacher team for matters going on at school (i.e. classwork and classroom behavior) and that the parent is the head of the parent-teacher team for matters going on at home (i.e. homework).

4.      I affirm that I am familiar with the homework research and debate and will take that into account when assigning homework.  If I am not familiar with the research and debate, I promise to become familiar with it during the coming year.

 

Signature of Teacher ____________________________________Date__________________________

Dr. Kenneth Goldberg, is the author of The Homework Trap: How to Save the Sanity of Parents, Teachers, and Students, published by Wyndmoor Press.

Parents are Different

A reader asked the following question: “What is your opinion of how to manage parents who are absent or uninvolved. A lot of my kids have working parents and/or disinterested parents. Who takes hold of the autonomy then?” I am offering a response, both in writing and on a video clip. I invite readers to join the discussion and to also pose other questions for me to address.

My answer is that you don’t try to manage people. You accept the fact that people are different. Just as you deal with the children as they are, not necessarily how you would like them to be (I’m sure in every teacher’s career there are some years in which the teacher remembers being assigned a particularly “good” class and other years a much more difficult class). You teach the children you are assigned. The same goes for families. Some are involved; some are absent or at least less involved. Some work. Some have an at-home parent. Some are highly interested. Some leave education to you, the teacher, and focus their interests elsewhere. In effect, parents represent the complex reality of human experience and circumstances. Their behaviors cannot be dictated by the teacher, let alone by the 30 to 40 different teachers their child will encounter over a 13 year, public school career.

There’s a concept that is central to Alcoholics Anonymous called the Serenity Prayer, which offers good advice for everyone, not just alcoholics. The prayer essentially calls for serenity in accepting things that are out of our control, courage in dealing with things that are in our control, and wisdom to know the difference. The problem raised in the reader’s question can be understood as struggling with an expectation that one can manage something that it outside one’s control. Once the teacher recognizes that his or her power and authority resides inside, not outside the classroom, there can be more acceptance of the fact that parents are different, and it does not have to interfere with the teaching process.

I’m always struck by the severity of homework penalties. If a child has some difficulty in class, he might get a low grade, but he’ll rarely get a zero or fail for the difficulties he has. Yet with homework, failure is a serious risk, based simply on the mathematics of the system. If homework, which might take under 10 percent of the child’s total home-school education time, is counted up to 25 percent of the grade, and if the child can get a 0, which I call a super-F, for work not done, we’re looking at a grading system that magnifies the effect of homework difficulties far beyond the impact of in-school difficulties. I think we have gravitated to this standard largely because this is what people do when they try to control behaviors that are outside their control. They create harsher and harsher consequences to influence behavior. Yet, the reality is that continued use of penalties in the absence of desired behavioral change, actually increases, rather than deceases, the prospects of noncompliance. If anything, the harsh penalties mobilize the parent into a frenzy, rather than motivate the child to do his homework.

Once we accept that families differ, we can stay focused on what happens in the classroom. This does not mean the teacher cannot assign homework. It just means, you assign it understanding the realities of the situation, accepting that children go home to different environments, and develop teaching methods that do not make you dependent on things that take place outside the class.

What do you think? Please weigh in with a comment. Please propose another topic as well.

Dr. Kenneth Goldberg is a clinical psychologist with 35 years of professional experience in dealing with many different psychological issues. He is the author of The Homework Trap: How to Save the Sanity of Parents, Students and Teachers and currently works in his own private practice.

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Teacher and Parent Empowerment

I came across this article on improving school performance through teacher empowerment.

I posted this comment to the article:

I’m impressed. I’m also not surprised. General principles of organizational theory tell us that people will function best when authority is vested at the lowest possible levels. Teachers who are free to use their judgment do better than those who are following outside dictates that supersede what they think. The principle is identical to what works in the home. I did not see the word homework, at all, in this article. We need to recognize that homework, while not necessarily bad in and of itself, is destructive when the parent lacks the authority to modify or waive the assignments. We should speak up strongly in support of teachers and against the current movement to put them under the gun. We should similarly speak up strongly against homework policies that diminish the authority of parents in their homes.

Dr. Kenneth Goldberg is a clinical psychologist with 35 years of professional experience in dealing with many different psychological issues. He is the author of The Homework Trap: How to Save the Sanity of Parents, Students and Teachers and currently works in his own private practice.

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Read book reviews of The Homework Trap
What is The Homework Trap?
A Roadmap to Success
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Messages for parents and teachers

On this blog post, I have posted four messages regarding The Homework Trap. Please excuse the amateur nature of this production.

Introduction

For parents of homework-trapped children

Using The Homework Trap as a model for 504 plans

The Homework Trap for Teachers

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The Homework Trap: How to Save the Sanity of Parents, Students and Teachers
Dr. Kenneth Goldberg is a clinical psychologist with 35 years of professional experience in dealing with many different psychological issues. He is the author of The Homework Trap: How to Save the Sanity of Parents, Students and Teachers and currently works in his own private practice.

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