Dave. It sounds
like you are doing a good job, focusing on your work while sustaining a full
life. I’m sure you are right in your impressions about your fellow students and
their complaints. But your comments miss a very significant point that I would
not expect you to see (I never saw it when I was your age), and that is that,
for some kids, homework does great damage to them. Typically, the damage precedes
your age and grade, taking place when those children are in elementary and
middle school. By high school, things are different. If a student has reached
high school and is able to select advanced courses like you have, despite his
complaints, he’s still moving forward toward lifetime success. It is the child
who has experienced ongoing homework pressures, with longstanding negativity, and
very little success who is getting damaged by the system in place. That student
rarely shows up in the classes you select and most likely spends time in
different social groups. The young person feel ostracized by the school. He
feels excluded from school activities. His parents have joined his teachers in
getting on his case, with nothing gained for all that has gone on.
These children
are “homework-trapped.” The trap is caused by a system that interferes with the
parents in managing the home. It involves assignments that take that child too
long to complete, with the problem typically rooted in weaknesses in the areas
of working memory and processing speed (reading and handwriting).
Depending on how
we define this state of being homework-trapped, the problem affects anywhere
between 10 and 25% of all kids.
When I was
young, there was a boy who lived two houses away from me. While I read a book,
worked on a brainteaser, or did my homework, he would spend type working on his
bike, which eventually turned into working on his motorcycle, and when he
reached the age, working on his car. At the time, I could not see how academic
requirements send home by the school might interfere with his learning through
what he considered fun. As an adult, a psychologist, and a parent, it is much
clearer to me that the system of homework plays out differently for different
children.
I do not mean to
diminish your accomplishments or underplay the importance of the good habits
you have formed. In fact, I’m not sure why, at your age, you should even worry
about the things that I say here. But, I am concerned that adults, parents and
teachers will misconstrue your experience as a reason to overlook the experience
other students have, the ones who do not take honors courses in high school,
and are sure to get turned off to school. These are often bright children who
have been hearing for years, “you’re so bright, you’d do so well if you just
tried harder.” It’s not a matter of effort. It’s a matter of giving them some
homework relief.
For more information on Dr. Goldberg's model, read other postings on this blog, visit his website, The Homework Trap, or read his book, The Homework Trap: How to Save the Sanity of Parents, Students and Teachers.
For more information on Dr. Goldberg's model, read other postings on this blog, visit his website, The Homework Trap, or read his book, The Homework Trap: How to Save the Sanity of Parents, Students and Teachers.
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Homework is extremely important. In such a way, understanding of the material given increases substantially. In order to gain maximum of efficiency, parents should control this very process. Sometimes, though, it can be hard for them. I belong to this very category, thus, I have to ask for help in special
services, so that I can be able to help children with the fields I'm not an expert in.
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