I like what Dr. Edwards says at the end of his article that
is reported in US News Health Report, Making Parental Peace with Kids’Homework, “School is important but so is the relationship you have with your
child. Don't let homework become an issue that harms that relationship,” but
think that there is a missing step between his advice and this recommendation
that needs to be considered. His advice involves good, standard-fare pointers about
what to do in the home: Find a good spot to do homework, pick a regular
homework time, help the child develop a homework strategy, help the child
address assignments one at a time, and provide support without hovering
unnecessarily. The advice includes instilling good habits like writing
assignments down in well-organized homework assignment books. Great if it
works, but what if it does not?
The missing piece is the need for the parents to have full
ownership of the home. As long as teachers have the final say about what has to
be done in the home, we have a problem. Consider how teachers relate to each
other. Does the math teacher tell the gym teacher how to address the child
who is not able to do a somersault? Does the English teacher tell the math teacher what to do with the child who was given a worksheet to complete in
class and was only able to get half of it done in the allotted time? The answer
is no. Teachers respect the decisions and individual integrity of their colleagues
in making those decisions. But if you follow Dr. Edwards’ good advice and your
child gets half of the work done in what you consider a reasonable homework
session for your child’s age, who, at that point, makes the decision about how
he’ll get graded and whether the work must get done?
Dr. Kenneth Goldberg, is the author of The Homework Trap: How to Save the Sanity of Parents, Teachers, and Students, published by Wyndmoor Press.
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